Talking about your sexual health can feel embarrassing and uncomfortable, but it doesn’t have to be.
When you think about your sexual health it can sometimes raise lots of questions and worries. For some, speaking about sex can feel embarrassing and uncomfortable, but part of becoming an adult is having the courage to talk about challenging topics. By doing so, you show maturity and readiness for a sexual relationship.
As a teenager, it’s normal to think about sex and as you build friendships, you will inevitably meet someone you feel physically attracted to and experience sexual feelings and urges for that person. However, it is important to remember that these feelings and urges need to be managed safely and responsibly.
Are you ready for a sexual relationship?
Before you enter into a sexual relationship there is one question we suggest you ask yourself. Am I ready for a sexual relationship?
If you’re under the age of 18 and thinking about having sex, there are a few things you should keep in mind. First and foremost, it’s important to make sure that you’re ready physically and emotionally. If you’re not sure, it’s OK to wait. There’s no rush.
It’s also important to remember that you have the right to say no to sex.
Regardless of your age or gender identity
If you feel pressured by your partner or uncomfortable with a situation, be brave and say no or not yet. If your partner truly cares for you, they will understand and not try and force you to do something you don’t want to do. Sex should be something you enjoy, not something you feel like you have to do.
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Understanding the law
The United Kingdom has some of the strictest laws in Europe when it comes to underage sex. The legal age of consent is 16, and there are strict penalties in place for anyone who engages in sexual activity with a person below that age. This includes physical and online contact.
The UK’s laws on underage sex are strict for a reason and are designed to protect young people from being taken advantage of by adults and their peers. The law also aims to prevent children from being exposed to sexual material or content that is not appropriate for their age.
If you are under the age of 16 and you are being taken advantage of in a sexual way or know someone who is, we strongly advise you to report it by speaking to an adult you trust.
You can always speak to one of our trained youth workers, who can help and support you when reporting your concerns.
You’ve decided you are ready for a sexual relationship
Once you feel happy and confident that you are ready for a sexual relationship and decide to have sex, always use protection when engaging in sexual activity, whether that is through using condoms or another form of contraception. Remember that other than condoms, other forms of contraception do not give protection against STIs, so remember, safe sex is not just about preventing pregnancy.
You can get condoms for free from a variety of places, including your local doctor, family planning clinic, and even some pharmacies.
It’s natural that you may feel embarrassed when asking for these things but don’t worry. Be confident they are professionals and that your personal information will not be shared with anyone else.
Four steps for good sexual health
By following these simple steps, you can ensure good sexual health as a teenager.
- It’s okay to say no or not yet. If your partner cares for you they will understand.
- Always use protection when engaging in sexual activity, whether that is through using condoms or another form of contraception.
- Get regular sexual health check-ups to ensure you are healthy and to catch any STIs early.
- Always communicate with your partner. Good communication is key to any healthy relationship, sexual or otherwise.
If you have specific questions about your sexual health, for example, whether or not you have an STI, we advise that you contact your doctor.
We hope you find the information on this page to be helpful as you make decisions about your sexual health. If you have any questions or need someone to talk to, you can always contact us using the dedicated form below.
